WHAT HAPPENS BEFORE A READING?

The first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is a mini meditation. I focus on three things: cleansing, protecting, and grounding. It takes about 20 seconds to do, and it lasts the entire day.

Cleansing removes any unwanted energy that I may have picked up from the day before or overnight.  

Protecting puts a white light, a forcefield, around me, allowing only high energy to penetrate the bubble of protection and prevent low energy or dark light from entering.

Finally, I ground myself. I connect my body to Mother Earth below, and to the Universe above. This reminds me I am a part of the Universe’s energy and anything is possible.

My digital CD, Through the Static: A Path to Spirit, explains in detail how I perform these three tasks. I believe they are essential to every individual—not just mediums, psychics, etc.  

At some point later in the day, I do a longer meditation. My meditations change daily, and they are usually no longer than 20-25 minutes. I love perusing available meditations on YouTube and trying them out.    

Minutes before a reading with a client, I set my intention. I believe setting intention is the most important thing to do in any situation you find yourself in. My intention is always to give the best reading I possibly can. I ask to focus on the mediumship and psychic frequency so I can bring through your loved ones who have crossed over and also to have understanding of what is happening in your life currently.

I also ask my guides—Phillip, my gatekeeper, and Dillon, my Spirit helper—to assist me in bringing your loved ones through, to ensure that only high energy is allowed in, and that the communication from Spirit is as clear as possible.

Lastly, I invite your loved ones to step forward. This includes your immediate family, angels, master guides, Spirit guides, your specialized guides, and anyone who was connected to you in this lifetime. Seconds before the reading, your loved ones are all lined up, eager to grab the one “microphone” they use to communicate with me. (I frequently ask them to talk one at a time, but I’ve quickly learned that I have no control over this!)

Your loved ones are just as eager and excited to communicate with you as you are to hear from them!  

It’s true, I have no control over who comes through in a reading, but your loved ones know who you want to hear from, and those people do typically show up. I live by the ideal that we get what we need, not necessarily what we want.

Your loved ones in Spirit have one thing in mind: love. They want you to live your best life. Spirit’s goal is often to (1) help you to release a burden, guilt, or anger, and (2) to simply validate that they are still with you on a daily basis. Spirit can see the past, present, and future, and is always right on target in knowing what you need to hear.

HOW SHOULD I PREPARE FOR MY READING?

All you have to do is show up and have an open mind. Be open to whoever comes through, trust that the messages you receive are exactly what you need to hear, and simply sit back, relax, and allow the “magic” to happen. Clear yourself of any projections, expectations, and stresses of the day.

Because I record all of my readings (a video if the reading is done virtually via Zoom or an audio recording if we meet in person), I do ask that people don’t take notes during the reading. Listening and taking notes simultaneously detracts from you being as present as possible—being present is when the “wow” moments happen!

There is no need to bring an object or photo of your loved one with you, unless you feel more comfortable having it with you. Objects related to or previously owned by your loved ones won’t increase the connection in any way. You can always bring me a coffee. It won’t change the Spirit side of things, but it will make me happy! (Just kidding, don’t bring coffee.)

WHAT CAN I EXPECT FROM A READING?

Your loved ones who have crossed over have one main goal: to prove to you that they see you, hear you, walk with you, sit with you, and know everything that is going on with you despite not physically being here. They haven’t missed any milestone moments such as pregnancies, births, new jobs, promotions, weddings, etc. They are saddened when they hear you say, “I wish my mom could have met her granddaughter.” They jump up and down shouting “I have, I met her before you did!”  

The messages, experiences, and validations Spirit brings up are designed to help you live your best life. If you are harboring guilt, shame, resentment, burdens, etc., your loved ones in Spirit will try to relay messages to help you let go of any of those feelings so you can be free to live a happy, fulfilled life. It is extremely rare for Spirit to tell us what to do. That is not their job. What they do instead is validate, compliment, guide, and whatever else they can do to remind you how strong, loving, smart, and intuitive you are—which is meant to support you in making your decisions.  

Sometimes this is solely about hearing from a loved one in Spirit. It may be approaching your dad’s anniversary of crossing over or the holidays are right around the corner. You may be missing him more than ever.  Your dad realizes that and it wouldn’t be uncommon for him to be the first one to step forward.

Recently, a woman called my radio show for a reading and after she told me her first name, I said to her, “I see animals all around you.” She responded, “I was calling about my dog who passed away.”  

Yes, even dogs, cats, rabbits, hamsters, birds, horses, etc., come through with validations! 

There is no time element in Spirit. This means that Spirit will bring up things that happened to you moments before your reading, as well as things that happened when you were a child. I have had Spirit start chatting with me hours after they have crossed over. I don’t believe there is any steadfast rule on when someone who has passed away will come through in a reading. There are no restrictions, it is dependent on the individual in Spirit and the urgency of a message you need to hear. 

You may see me look down at my notebook at the beginning of the reading. Before the reading even starts, most Spirit start communicating with me despite me asking them to wait until you are present. I jot things down so I don’t forget to mention them.

I usually start with the mediumship piece. I will let you know who in Spirit is stepping forward in a variety of ways. Sometimes by their first, second, or last name, sometimes by referencing a mother or father figure, sometimes by how they crossed over.

For example, I once did a reading with three sisters and their father appeared quickly. He told me to ask his girls who had the “A” middle name. They responded by saying the only sibling that had an “A” middle name was their sister who passed away. It was a way for me and the three women to know their sister was also present and the father and sister, in Spirit, started chatting with the three sisters. It was a heartwarming experience. 

Spirit is extremely savvy. They have helped me build a library of images that represent an experience or something they want me to relay to the person in front of me. For example, when I see a bouquet of flowers, I know there is or was a birthday or anniversary within just a few weeks of the reading. Another example is showing me an image of a pineapple to bring up Hawaii. Or a stop sign image to indicate a recent death (recent almost always means within one year).       

If a client tells me they have specific questions to ask, I leave some time at the end of the reading. The reason I do this is because most of the questions are usually answered (to the best of Spirit’s ability) by the time the reading is almost over. Whether you write questions down or just have them in your mind, your loved ones know exactly what you want to know.  Spirit will sometimes answer a question directly and sometimes they won’t answer at all. If Spirit turns away from me when the person asks their question, it means they are not going to answer the question. Our souls are here in the physical world to learn. We can’t always be given the answers from Spirit because that will prevent us from going through the experiences we need to have to satisfy our souls.   

Connecting with your loved ones in Spirit is a unique experience and different for every individual.  Having another chance to speak and hear from your loved ones is truly an extraordinary and life-changing encounter. I hope I am privileged to go on this journey with you soon!